The unconscious mind is very susceptible to suggestion. That’s how and why hypnosis works, and our habitual thoughts are like self-hypnosis. The good news is that we can use this suggestibility to make positive changes in our lives.
Here are two suggestions:
- Make a list of your strengths, talents, and accomplishments. Everyone has their own talents and abilities, of you look carefully. We often over-value the things others can do that we can’t, but undervalue the things that come easy to us and assume everyone can do it. It’s not true – you are unique. Be honest with yourself and list your skills, talents and abilities. The read from this list daily to remind you of your uniqueness, your value and your positive strengths.
- Write affirmations around the things you would like to achieve. Here are some examples – “I am at ease when surrounded by strangers”, or “I am willing and excited to try new things” or “I am comfortable saying no people”. You will know the affirmations that you need. Then repeat them out loud every day, morning.
Our unconscious mind tends to believe the messages it is constantly exposed to. So your confidence is influenced tremendously by your daily thoughts, especially recurring thoughts. Consistency is key to lasting change. If you want to be more confident, make a habit of reminding yourself of your unique gifts and abilities.
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6 Easy Steps To Turn Your Anxieties Into Actions
- Make a list of the top three anxieties that lurk in your mind, the main worries that keep you back.
(e.g. if I speak to people I don’t know, I might not be able to think of anything to say)
- Reframe each anxiety into a positive outcome rather than a negative fear.
(e.g. I want to be sure to have things to talk about when I talk to strangers)
- By each one, write a step you can take to help achieve this outcome
(.e.g. I can learn a simple list of questions I could ask a stranger about themselves)
- Write a list of affirmations based on each outcome you are looking for.
(e.g. “I am at ease talking to strangers, and interested in what they have to say”)
- Carry out the actions listed in No. 3 above.
- Repeat the affirmations listed in No. 4 above, out loud, at least twice daily.
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No one is ever 100% confident 100% of the time, most of us experience shifts in the way we feel about ourselves, moment by moment. Confidence rises and falls – that’s the nature of confidence.
At the Real Confidence workshop you will learn about the 4 facts which will help you to manage your Real Confidence in more situations, with more people, more often.
The four facts are:
- Confidence is a state not a personality trait.
- Confidence is an internal experience expressed outwards
- Confidence is a story we tell ourselves so we can tweak and alter that story
- Confidence can be learnt and real confidence comes with practice
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So many words about how we feel have a physical aspect – over the moon, down in the dumps, under the weather. How we feel, how we think and how we hold ourselves are intimately inter-connected, and this shows up in how we express confidence.
A well-known TED talk by Amy Cuddy talks about how two minutes of “power poses” increases levels of testosterone and decreases levels of cortisol in the brain. Stress decreases, confidence rises. It also changes how people perceive you.
There’s also research showing that the connection between how we feel and our facial expression is two-way, not one-way. We can affect how we feel literally putting on a happy or sad face, and this in turn will affect our bodies and our thought process.
There are many ways to tackle poor self-confidence. One is just to, as Amy Cuddy says, “fake it until you become it”. Sit up, stand tall, put on a confident face and body, and it will eventually become who you are!
Come along to our next Real Confidence workshop on May 20th and 21st 2017 in Birmingham
No one is 100% confident 100% of the time. Most of us experience shifts in the way we feel about ourselves, moment by moment. This is because confidence is a fluid state not a fixed personality trait.
What matters is not having a crisis of confidence but rather what happens next. The easiest way to recover your Real Confidence is to get out of your head and back into your reality, your life, right her and right now!
The 2-day Real Confidence workshop on May 20 & 21 will show you how to use your mind and body to interrupt and manage your feelings, thoughts, actions and reactions. Facilitated by interpersonal communications expert Jon Trevor, and Coach / psychotherapist Wanjiku Nyachae, you’ll be challenged to feel, play, connect, and express your very own personal brand of self-confidence.
“There is so much confidence that I can take from the moments we spent together.” Participant 2015
“Your approach was so helpful and sensitive, you helped me to find my confident self again” Participant 2016
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