A common obstacle to self confidence is worrying about what others think of us. the drop in confidence begins inside our heads with a thought: “What will they think?” “What will they say?” “What will they do?”
Your Real Confidence is Your SuperPower!
These thoughts are like reverse superpowers – they are powerful enough to trigger feelings which turn into behaviors (inc. actions and body postures). When we are in our heads worrying about what others think we literally begin to make ourselves as small and as quiet as possible. This is in order to avoid being vulnerable – what we imagine people might think about us or do to us.
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Knowing that Eleanor Roosevelt is right (that most people are really not thinking about you as much as you imagine) is not the same as knowing how to control the link between your confidence and your thoughts.
The Real Confidence workshop helps you to understand a how your thought are linked to feelings of confidence; you experience how the way you think affects how you feel and both in turn are expressed non-verbally through your body postures, speech and actions. Using improv and facilitation you experience how managing one of these aspects of yourself (your thoughts or your feelings or your body postures) changes the others. You get real and immediate feedback through your own body and mind about how to immediately recover Real Confidence.
The unconscious mind is very susceptible to suggestion. That’s how and why hypnosis works, and our habitual thoughts are like self-hypnosis. The good news is that we can use this suggestibility to make positive changes in our lives.
Here are two suggestions:
- Make a list of your strengths, talents, and accomplishments. Everyone has their own talents and abilities, of you look carefully. We often over-value the things others can do that we can’t, but undervalue the things that come easy to us and assume everyone can do it. It’s not true – you are unique. Be honest with yourself and list your skills, talents and abilities. The read from this list daily to remind you of your uniqueness, your value and your positive strengths.
- Write affirmations around the things you would like to achieve. Here are some examples – “I am at ease when surrounded by strangers”, or “I am willing and excited to try new things” or “I am comfortable saying no people”. You will know the affirmations that you need. Then repeat them out loud every day, morning.
Our unconscious mind tends to believe the messages it is constantly exposed to. So your confidence is influenced tremendously by your daily thoughts, especially recurring thoughts. Consistency is key to lasting change. If you want to be more confident, make a habit of reminding yourself of your unique gifts and abilities.
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6 Easy Steps To Turn Your Anxieties Into Actions
- Make a list of the top three anxieties that lurk in your mind, the main worries that keep you back.
(e.g. if I speak to people I don’t know, I might not be able to think of anything to say)
- Reframe each anxiety into a positive outcome rather than a negative fear.
(e.g. I want to be sure to have things to talk about when I talk to strangers)
- By each one, write a step you can take to help achieve this outcome
(.e.g. I can learn a simple list of questions I could ask a stranger about themselves)
- Write a list of affirmations based on each outcome you are looking for.
(e.g. “I am at ease talking to strangers, and interested in what they have to say”)
- Carry out the actions listed in No. 3 above.
- Repeat the affirmations listed in No. 4 above, out loud, at least twice daily.
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